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Attract her silently
Can you woo her silently?
There’s more than one way to communicate, and experts will tell you the majority of human communication is expressed through our actions and expressions. If this is the case, wouldn’t it be reasonable to assume we could spark interest and attraction without the benefit of words? A picture is worth a thousand words, and so is a meaningful look or a significant gesture. While you will, of course, have to speak eventually, it isn’t essential that the launching pad consist of verbal interaction. Women are generally considered the more sensitive sex -- for better or for worse -- and therefore they’re more likely to notice the little things, things typical men might consider trivial or superfluous. Take advantage of this by making the silent approach a projection of your personality and desire with the absence of words. Your goal, of course, is to land an actual verbal flirting encounter.
The well-rounded Player should be capable of such a task, especially when the human psyche often generates a first impression before the first words are uttered. You should know how crucial a first impression is, and you’re virtually ensuring a great one if you can nail the silent approach. She’ll remember the way you looked at her and the way you looked when she first saw you. If done smoothly, it should work wonders.
Here are several tips to get you started, but remember: If this fails, a close, flirtatious encounter may be entirely out of the question.
Show similar interests through your actions
This will take some early observation coupled with a timely movement or gesture on your part. It’s easiest to explain through examples, so here’s one: Perhaps you’re in the supermarket and you’re both browsing through the produce. She’s selecting a cantaloupe and you “just happen” to reach for the same one at the same time (it’s not anywhere near as difficult as it sounds). Another example may take place at your home away from home: the bar or dance club. You’ve been keeping your eye on this hot little number three tables over and you notice she only orders one particular drink, giving you the perfect opportunity to purchase one and send it over. In turn, the door is opened to a “Hey, that’s your favorite drink, too?” sort of meeting. Birds of a feather!This could happen anywhere, at any time. Whether you’re out in the park jogging and you match her pace for a little while or you simply stop beside her to examine a store window on the sidewalk, relating to her without words can be a surprisingly straightforward process.
Prompt verbal contact with your eyes/actions
This goes well beyond a simple look; you’re seeking to grab her attention with a specific action. For instance, say you’re in a department store looking through a rack of shirts. You notice a particularly appealing target within the same vicinity so you get a bit closer, select a shirt and hold it up. Catch her eye and shoot her an inquisitive look as if to say, “How’s this?” Or perhaps you find yourself in an elevator, stuck behind one particularly rude individual who believes the entire world wants to hear his personal cell phone conversation. A shared rolling of the eyes is often enough to spark light banter before you depart the elevator, and provided you’ve properly honed your speed-flirting skills, you’re golden.By the way, this tip comes fully equipped with an added perk, one you’ve probably already surmised: You can easily gauge her interest by her reaction. The situation is almost irrelevant; if you attempt to share common ground with only a look, the results in her eyes and facial reaction should be clear.
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Attract Her Silently
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Opposites attract from a distance
Here you will present yourself as a polar opposite from afar. Now, it may sound bizarre and maybe even counterproductive, but when done properly, this technique works far better than you might expect. If your eyes have already crossed paths, you’ve probably sketched a rudimentary portrait of her personality based on her reaction (remember the previous hint?). Therefore, if she’s clearly the shy type and averts her eyes with a small smile, you come on strong from across the room with a big smile and direct eye contact. If she likes to play the role of the aggressor, you become the hard-to-get target and play it soft. Get it? The key to “talking with your eyes” centers on a person’s ability to blend facial expressions with eye movement. In other words, if she looks away with downcast eyes and a small grin, she’s playing shy and coy. If you keep a steady gaze and a larger smile, it’s obviously a more straightforward approach (just don’t stare like a nut).You could also implement an idea from the previous tip, which includes buying her a drink in a bar with the accompanying -- and appropriate -- look. In other situations, you might even be able to pick up her movie tickets for her while standing in line at the theatre -- a surprising and flattering move.
Offer to help in an appropriate situation
It’s the silent, yet gallant, approach that will open so many doors; in fact, you might start with that one: Simply open a door for a lovely lady. There are multiple opportunities to take advantage of the straightforward gentleman theory, and that includes helping a woman when she’s clearly loaded down with packages or bags, helping her pick up the purse she dropped (and the contents that spilled from it), etc. Don’t say a word; simply move to assist and you’ll immediately be in her good graces.Remember, though, we’re not advising you to create these opportunities. In the preceding example, for instance, don’t knock into her on purpose just for an excuse to help her retrieve the fallen items. Not only is it too transparent and even predictable, it’s also a little underhanded. For this tip, you simply need to be in the right place at the right time; don’t force the issue.
Dress to fit the occasion
When you know where you’re going and you know what type of woman you’re seeking, you can gain the upper hand by dressing appropriately… and alluringly. Women pay very close attention to the way a man dresses -- any successful Player knows this -- and you can get a foot in the door by selecting the best possible attire. If you’re looking for a higher class of female at a particularly elegant club, you’re going to have to dress it up beyond what is required.Women dress to attract males, and contrary to popular belief, the door does swing both ways. Besides, it’s yet another opening for conversation and a chance for you to comment on her outfit, which very rarely fails to impress if done correctly.
Lure her with an outside “cuteness factor”
If you’ve ever been to the park in search of a delectable target, you’ll know it’s best to go with a partner in crime… one who’s a great deal smaller. You may not have a baby or a dog close at hand, so if you don’t just borrow one for the day. Babysitting or pet-sitting -- it doesn’t matter because provided you head to the right locations, you’ll be in a prime position to hear a lot of “aww” and “isn’t he cute?!” comments.In one way, those compliments are indirectly aimed at you, as women instantly believe a man with either a child or pet is both sensitive and mature, capable of making (and upholding) important life decisions. Besides, without a woman holding your hand, they’ll also assume you’re a single parent -- or single pet owner -- and best of all, they will initiate contact. You just gotta play it up a bit by getting all mushy with your companion for the day. Sure, you may be risking some of those masculinity trophies you’ve acquired over the years, but it’s worth taking the chance.
actions speak louder
Ever wonder why there are so many jokes about bad pickup lines? It’s obviously because there are so many bad pickup lines. Despite the fact that much of human communication is done in a non-verbal capacity, saying the right thing to a woman remains pretty crucial. But you can remove some of the pressure simply by establishing an extraordinary positive rapport without even opening your mouth. The previous tips may sometimes rely on things you can’t control such as timing, the type of women in the vicinity and unique situational demands, but the foundation for each is solid. It’s not chivalrous to say you’re preying on a woman’s sensitivity, but it’s very honorable to say you’re simply speaking her language… without ever saying a single word.Back in Game!
Get Back In The Game
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So, you've dumped her. Or she's dumped you. Either way, once you find yourself single, thoughts soon come around to meeting other women. But getting back in the game, especially after a long-term relationship, can be daunting.
The first steps back in the world of dating should not to be taken lightly. You shouldn't attempt to bed new women to take revenge on your ex, whether it's to lure her back with jealousy or as a way to get over her. You should do it because you're a single guy and that's what single guys do.
It goes without saying that you have to be completely over your ex before you get back into the game. Women will immediately pick up on it if you're using them to distract yourself or numb the pain. Exactly how long it will take to reach this stage varies: Some will find themselves cruising around the local pickup spots the very next weekend, while others may find it takes months before they can even look at another woman.
No matter what, it's worth the wait because the single life rules.
Cheer up then gear up
Approaching other women with all this going on is definitely a bad idea. Women can smell depression and desperation a mile off, and the scent is not appealing to them. You might think a one-night stand or even a new relationship is a good way to get over her, but the inevitable rejection will batter your confidence and make you feel 10 times worse.
Instead of dwelling on your ex and the relationship, remember the good side of being single: all those late nights with the boys, the freedom to do what you want when you want and, most importantly, with whom you want. When you stop thinking that there's something missing from your life and start to relish the idea of being single, then it's time to start bedding other women.
If you're honest, you’ll admit that there were times when you were with your ex that you envied those who were single. Well, start smiling again because now you're one of them...
Take a look around
Gather your friends. After listening to your moaning, they'll be almost as eager as you are for a big night out. Explain that, in one night, you aim to seek out everything that you couldn't do before. Take in a bar crawl, drop a few bets on the dogs and enjoy a strip club or two.
How to meet women in bars and other places...
The point isn't to hook up with women. We've already noted that desperation is a major turnoff. The night is for the boys doing boy things. It marks you stepping out of the world of relationships and being welcomed back as one of the guys, making a gradual re-entry in the life of the carefree, single guy.
Of course, if you find that women are approaching you, don't turn them away.
One of the major benefits of being single is the chance of an unexpected hookup. If you're happy being single, then the prospect of this increases greatly.
Change locales
Now that you've been reintroduced to single life, don't stick to your old haunts. The new you deserves new territory.There will be plenty of places, particularly bars, that your ex used to discourage you from going to; usually because that's where the hot, single women go to. Now you can stalk these hunting grounds with immunity.
Here you will be a fresh face, where no one knows the history of your failed relationship. The women there won't think of you as the ex of so-and-so, but as the new guy on the scene. These new locales are the perfect place to test out your new pickup skills.
Believe me: You'll need to learn new skills because the college-kegger tactics you last used won't work anymore. Check out The Player's Guide for detailed tips on how to make the most of single life.
Fill up your free time
Chances are you'll find yourself with more free time on your hands. A relationship takes a lot of time, and it's hard (not to mention unhealthy) to plug that gap with nothing but new bars and flutters at the track.But even this can be beneficial to the newly single man. Your ex did the cooking? Then take up a cooking class. Here, you’ll fill your immediate need of edible food, gain access to new women in a nontraditional hookup environment (where their defenses are down), and add “the home-cooked meal” to your dating repertoire.
Plenty of activities serve the dual purpose of filling spare time and getting you back in the game. Coed sports, the gym, art classes, and singles holidays are great starting ideas.
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Number 10
Become the high-status man
There are many logical reasons why women are attracted to high-status men, but the fact is that it’s TRUE and it’s not going to CHANGE anytime soon. If a woman perceives you as holding a higher status than her, you instantly qualify for the I’ll-consider-it group in her mind. If a woman perceives you as holding a LOWER status than her, she will instantly and unconsciously put you in the not-a-chance mental category. And if you communicate your status in just the right way, you can trigger a powerful and instantaneous attraction inside of a woman that will be impossible for her to ignore. She’ll FEEL IT. Luckily, this is something ANY guy can do.Number 9
Communicate high status properly
The great news is that you can communicate high status even if you’re not good-looking, rich or famous. The first thing you need to do is STOP communicating LOWER status. Men typically communicate lower status by justifying, defending or explaining themselves. By seeking approval and by allowing things to affect them emotionally these men are portraying themselves a weak and in the lower status department. Stop doing these things immediately. Resist the temptation to explain yourself, be the center of your own universe and keep your cool. If you do, you’ll make HUGE headway in becoming the high-status guy women can’t get enough of.Number 8
Never communicate low status
The ultimate mistake you can make when it comes to status -- and the one guys make over and over again -- is trying to trade your status for her APPROVAL. I call this becoming a WUSSY just to get a woman to like you. This one single thing you may do and it will almost GUARANTEE that she will NEVER feel a gut-level attraction for you. It’s so obvious and so pervasive that it’s almost invisible. This is the ultimate mistake men make with women. Whatever you do, never communicate lower status to try to get a woman to like you. It never, ever works.Stop putting yourself down and let her chase you..
Number 7
Let her chase you
When most guys meet an attractive woman, they think about things completely BACKWARD. They usually decide quickly that she is what they want, so they pursue which causes her to run away, which leads them wanting her more. BAD NEWS. Instead, try flipping this whole scenario on its head. The next time you meet a woman you’re hot for, instead of deciding SHE is what YOU want, take the perspective that YOU are the kind of guy SHE wants. Then when she starts to pursue you, run away. It’ll make her want you that much more. When you realize the steps that women use to attract us guys, you can use these same steps to attract THEM. Nice.Number 6
Stop devaluing yourself
Humans have a hardwired system for assigning value in our heads. If something is easy to get, we don’t think it has much value, but when it’s hard to get we naturally assume it must be VERY valuable. If you want to DROP your value to zero instantly in a woman’s eyes, all you have to do is make yourself easy to get a hold of -- be readily available and obviously very interested. On the other hand, if you want to INCREASE your value in a big way, you need to do the opposite. Make yourself busy so you’re difficult to get a hold of, and when you do talk to a woman, make sure you get off the phone and go do something interesting and make sure you tell her about the activity right before you say, “Gotta go, bye!” Make sure you have all kinds of other options going on in your life so you CAN’T become too available.Number 5
Tell her she’d make an interesting friend
If a woman uses the phrase, “He’s just a friend,” what she typically means is that the guy is interested in her but doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of having a romantic relationship with her. So turn the tables. If you are talking to a woman and you can tell she’s starting to feel for you, say to her: “You know, I think you’re going to make an interesting friend.” Women RARELY -- IF EVER -- hear this from a man. It will set you up as a challenge in her mind and cause her to be MORE LIKELY to want to be with you in a romantic way.Number 4
Become friends with attractive women
If you’re going out to meet women, is it better to be rolling with two horny guy friends or is it better to be rolling with two attractive female friends who love you? Exactly. Making friends, ACTUAL FRIENDS, with several attractive women is one of the best strategies for consistently meeting women without having to deal with any kind of anxiety over approaching women. When I say make friends with these women, I mean ACTUALLY make friends. It’s fine to flirt, tease and have fun with them, but they are going to be your friends so it’s best to keep your grubby mitts off of them. Keep these friendships intact and they’ll introduce you to TONS of available women. They’ll literally BRING THEM TO YOU.The top three ways to make her want you
Make her want you
Number 3
Show her that you’d make a great sexual partner
Animals have certain traits (like the male peacock’s giant tail feathers) that signal to females who will make a healthy mate. These signals are difficult to fake (you either have the feathers or you don’t), so females rely on them heavily when deciding who to mate with. Female humans also look for these “honest signals,” and lucky for us they can be learned (unlike the feathers). Focus on developing these honest signals like dominant posture, slow gestures and movement, strong eye contact, indifference, and cocky comedy. When you master these signals, women will have NO CHOICE but to take notice of you.Number 2
Learn to tell if a woman is single quickly
Ever wonder if an attractive woman is single? If you develop the ability to be good at “reading” whether a woman is single or not, you’ll be able to behave with her right from the start in a confident, knowing way. And you’ll also stop taking it personally and getting hung up on women who seem cold to you because you’ll know WHY they seem occupied. To figure out if a woman is available or not start teasing her, if she continues to spar with you as you bust her balls, it’s usually a big signal that she’s available and open to you. Practice guessing if a woman is single or not until you can tell quickly and accurately. When you do, it will blow her mind that you knew her relationship status without her saying a word about it. She’ll see you as an insightful, intuitive guy -- precisely the kind of guy she’s attracted to.Number 1
Create abundant choices for yourself
When you make a decision there’s a big difference between deciding whether or not to take the ONE option available, and trying to choose between an ABUNDANCE of options. Most guys have the mindset, “It’s either her, or nothing.” Most women have the mindset, “I can have any guy I want, so which one do I like best?” Take a moment and think about the subtle differences in your thinking, communicating and acting when you have MANY choices and you need to conserve your time, as opposed to having just one choice and having to figure out how to get it. Learn to think and behave as if you have all the choices in the world, then work on making that a REALITY by continually educating yourself on how to succeed with women and dating.Way to get her to chase u
Techniques to make her chase you
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Most men naturally assume that it’s the MAN who must pursue the woman. But guys who are naturals at succeeding with women don’t buy into this belief -- and it’s a big part of why they’re always with the most attractive women. What would your life be like if instead of chasing women, women chased you? Here are 10 tips to shift the dynamic in your favor and get women tripping over themselves for a space on your social calendar.
Number 10
Use “reverse rapport”
“Reverse rapport” is when you say and do the opposite of what a guy would do when he’s trying to make a woman like him… but in a sarcastic, overly serious way that assumes the woman already knows, likes and trusts you. The objective here is NOT to try to be sweet and wonderful and nice in order to win her approval. How do you do this? Well, one way is to use a sarcastic comment that’s the OPPOSITE of what a woman wants to hear. Or answer a question a woman asks you with an answer that’s the opposite of what she expects, all in a very sarcastic tone that implies you’re making fun of her. When you do, you’ll create a deep, polarity-charged connection with her that will get her pursuing you in no time flat.Number 9
Read between the lines
If you’re talking to a woman on the phone and she tells you that she’s seeing someone, understand that she’s saying this more for herself than for you. She probably is casually dating another guy, but she’s feeling attracted to you, so she needs to say this to put on the brakes so she doesn’t feel “promiscuous.” If you find yourself in this situation, tell her something challenging like “Yeah, congratulations… and you know, that’s pretty assumptive thinking that I was trying to pursue you.” She won’t know what to say, and you will have communicated that you’re a confident guy who doesn’t need any woman -- just the kind of guy women LOVE. Don’t be surprised if she calls you back within a week, telling you she wants to get together and that she’s suddenly dumped the guy she was dating (for a chance to get to know you, of course).Number 8
See beyond getting laid
When I first started learning how to succeed with women and dating, the idea of getting laid was a lot more interesting to me than it is now because I thought that if you could learn how to “get laid” then you’d naturally be able to have any other kind of success you wanted with women. Well, many of the guys I’ve met who are GREAT at “getting laid” don’t have any idea how to find a high-quality woman to have a great relationship with and when they do find one, they have no idea how to keep her around. I think it’s much more interesting and useful to learn how and why women become attracted to men, and why they STAY attracted. This way, you’ll be able to keep that fantastic woman in your life once you find her. There’s nothing wrong with “getting laid,” but it’s only a tiny piece of the puzzle, and it alone won’t lead you to happiness and success in life.
More tips to keep her interested
Number 7
Stop courting, start attracting
There are two basic models for how men approach meeting women: the courtship model, and the attraction model. If you base your approach with women on ATTRACTION, you get a very different response from COURTING them. When you court a woman, her natural response is to run, which makes you want her more and makes her run more. But when you attract a woman, her natural response is to chase YOU. This subtlety makes all the difference in the world.
Number 6
Be the dominant one
Courting is based on what you DO, what you OFFER, and what you GIVE… and is largely based on gifts, dinners, flowers, compliments, etc. Attraction is based on how you communicate, who you are and your masculine identity. Courting takes the “make friends” strategy and supersizes it; it’s about being as nice as possible in order to get her to like you. Attraction isn’t concerned with “liking” because a woman doesn’t need to like you in order to feel attracted to you. Courting is facing the challenge; attraction is BEING the challenge. Courting is about being a follower, submissive and weak; attraction is about being a leader, dominant and strong. Stop courting, start attracting, and you won’t BELIEVE how it can transform your success with women.
Number 5
Show her you get it
Women will act completely different around you and treat you very differently if you’re a guy who “gets it.” The way to show her you’re one of these rare guys is to see when she’s testing you and keep your cool. So if she mentions that other men are interested in her or she says she’s unavailable or she complains about something you do, realize it’s just a test. Then simply say, “Hey, stop that stuff,” and she’ll know what you mean. More importantly, she’ll know she’s dealing with a real man, and she’ll stop at no expense to chase you down.
Number 4
Stay on your own course
Most men orient themselves by following and seeking approval of the woman. She leads, they follow; in fact, she isn’t even leading, but the man tries to convince her to lead with questions and body language that seek approval. This is a horrible mistake, and annoys women to no end. Instead, stay on your course, even when she’s all over the map. Let her reorient her body, behavior, moods, and responses to YOURS. Don’t ever try to get her to lead. Show her you’re the kind of man who loves to be the captain of your own ship, and she’ll feel an undeniable attraction to you.
The top three ways to get her knocking at your door…
Number 3
Never backpedal or explain yourself
If you say or do something that seems to upset a woman, don’t try to explain your way out of it or do something to “make her feel better.” Don’t act like you screwed up or show her that you’re nervous just because she’s acting upset. Just move on as if nothing happened. Get right on to the next topic or story. If she stays on it, whines or complains, just say “Get over it, it was a joke, stop being a pain,” and then get on to the next topic again. If you try to backpedal or explain yourself or in any way hint that you think you’ve “screwed up,” you’re DEAD MEAT. If you say something and she doesn’t like it, that’s not YOUR problem. Women often complain to see if they can manipulate you with their emotions, and when you show you don’t fall for this, her respect and ATTRACTION for you will go through the roof.
Number 2
Hint that you’re normal
There are a lot of psycho, perverted and “mentally unstable” guys out there, so it’s important you communicate through your behavior that you’re NOT one of them. Tell a woman you’re busy, and get off the phone WITHOUT asking her to meet for a date. Make fun of dumb-ass behavior, and other guys who act like wussies. If she calls but doesn’t leave a message, accuse her of being a stalker, and tell her that normal people leave messages. Chase women out of your house; say “get out” over and over again if she’s kissing you. All of this gives her subtle signs that you’re not some freak who desperately wants to get in her pants. This will give her an irresistible craving to get to know you better because you’re so different from the typical needy guys she dates.
Number 1
Use her own games on her
We all know women love playing games. But when you turn the tables and play games on a woman, it shifts the power dynamic in your favor. One of my favorite games to play with women is “You’re a brat, and I’m fake exasperated.” That’s pretty self-explanatory. Some others are “Let’s see who can act the least interested,” and “I’m hard to get, and you love me.” Have fun playing these games with a woman and you’ll soon find that she won’t be able to get enough of your challenging, confident personality.
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porn star secrets
Whether you hate that your guy watches porn or opt to watch it with him, you always wonder about one thing: the mystique of the porn star. She's everything a good girl doesn't want to be -- except in the bedroom. Wish you could mesmerize your man like his favorite video vixen? Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was a Liar, has compiled a cheat sheet of porn babes' best-kept secrets. Once you know what they know, you can try the tricks at home -- no over-processed hair or camcorder required. Your man will be putty in your hands, but the biggest payoff? You will end up more satisfied in the process.
1- Show a little enthusiasm
Good-girl approach: Many of us have been taught that
sex is not a high priority, so when your guy wants to do the horizontal tango,
you make excuses or treat it like another chore on your to-do list.
Porn-babe secret: They enjoy what feels good without reservation -- and
they show their partners how excited they are by engaging them with their speech
and movements. They understand that diving into the sack with someone who isn't
into it is like sharing a "romantic" meal with someone who's watching
television.
Tantalizing tip: Take the initiative! Wake him up with a below-the-belt
kiss. Send him a naughty text message midway through the day. In bed, get into
the moment by looking into his eyes and telling him how eager you are to be
with him.
2- Speak up
Good-girl approach: Your sack sessions hardly leave
you invigorated, but you're scared that any attempt to spice things up will
make you seem like a tramp.
Porn-babe secret: Toss the dated worries -- liking sex doesn't make you
a hussy; it makes you human. Tell him how much you enjoy it when he kisses that
special spot or mention something you're craving in the heat of the moment.
Just asking for something new can be a huge turn-on for both partners.
She can learn to love her body and how to spice up dirty talk…
Tantalizing tip: Pop open a bottle of wine and initiate a little game of truth-or-dare. Or surprise him with a spicy flick and point out the scenes you'd be open to trying. There's a good chance he'd like to experiment, too, but is keeping it to himself because he doesn't want to offend you.
3- Love those thighs
Good-girl approach: You hate your hips, your backside
is less than baby-smooth, blah, blah, blah.
Porn-babe secret: They know that men love sex -- he's absolutely
thrilled when your thighs are wrapped around him, dimples and all. He would
never forgo what feels good to accommodate something as silly as a body
insecurity or two.
Tantalizing tip: Illuminate the bedroom, living room or even kitchen
with candles, which give a soft glow that glides over perceived imperfections.
Give him the visualization he craves and get off (pun intended) on the fact
that you are the reason for every moan and squirm your man makes.
4- Know thyself
Good-girl approach: You find masturbation
embarrassing or shameful, so you rarely try it (and never admit to it when you
do).
Porn-babe secret: Make like a seasoned porn babe and figure out what
works for you by caressing your thighs, breasts and everything in between. Not
knowing what feels good is like taking a cross-country road trip without a map.
Tantalizing tip: If you're like many gals and the manual approach leaves
you feeling less than thrilled, simply find something else to tickle your fancy.
After a few solo sessions, bring your man into the action for a steamy
one-on-one lesson.
5- Get a new bedtime script
Good-girl approach: Your pillow talk doesn't get much
racier than a few "oh, baby's” tossed in with a few "you feel so
good's."
Porn-babe secret: Men are competitive by nature, and they love to know
they are the best at whatever it is they're doing, including you. Porn babes
know that just hearing a female verbally tap into the action is enough to make
him explode.
Tantalizing tip: Get comfy with the saucy talk by writing down some sexy
thoughts and reading them out loud alone a few times. In bed, start small by
giving him a play-by-play of the action, telling him what he's doing to you or
asking questions such as, "Do you like it when I [insert verb here]
you?"
The importance of sexy underwear and learning to fantasize…
6- Get a little uncomfortable
Good-girl approach: Your weekend look of sweats and
ponytails has become as fun as your weekly date with the treadmill. Sound
exciting? Yeah, we didn't think so.
Porn-babe secret: Men are visual creatures (that's why porn babes are in
business). These gals work this to their advantage and don sexy lingerie and
even (gulp!) keep their heels on during the deed, all to enhance the
experience.
Tantalizing tip: Slip on a thong underneath your yoga pants or meet him
at home in nothing but heels and a great hairdo. Surprising him with something
new will show him that he's worth the effort, which will spark his heart as
well as his, um, interest.
7- Come on, gals -- fantasize
Good-girl approach: You'd never admit to daydreaming
about being intimate with two men or kissing another woman, even if you do --
and the thought of your man having a sex dream about Heidi Klum in bed is
enough to bring you to tears.
Porn-babe secret: They do things most of us wouldn't, but the lesson is in
their approach, not in their actions. They don't judge the desires of their
partners or take offense at what turns them on. Just because your guy
fantasizes about a threesome doesn't mean he doesn't love you or even that he
would want to participate in one in real life. As long as the boundaries of
your relationship are maintained, fantasizing is a healthy aspect of sexuality.
Tantalizing tip: Try verbal exploration. Talk him through a threesome or
ask him to pretend he's a stranger. Sharing these kinds of experiences will not
only spark amazing sex, but it will also build trust and intimacy, which is
always sexy. Discuss boundaries beforehand (some couples have a code word to
signal the other to stop when acting out scenarios) and remember: Comfort is
key, so don't participate in anything that makes you uncomfortable.
8- Get creative with the merchandise
Good-girl approach: You have an idea of what works
for your guy, which is why you do it again and again and…
Porn-babe secret: They know their partner has dozens of hot buttons --
from his toes to the back of his neck -- and that half the fun is finding out
what works and what doesn't.
Get her to be like Jenna Jameson in the bedroom...
Tantalizing tip: Gently pinch or bite his nipples or kiss his chest and stroke his stomach gently with your nails. When you go below the belt, pay attention to all parts of the package by gently tracing his scrotum with your tongue or pressing on his perineum (the area between his penis and his anus).
9- Be a little selfish
Good-girl approach: You're tired and overworked, and
you haven't been to the gym in ages. You'd love to get your hair done and take
that spinning class, but you promised you'd run errands for your sister
(again).
Porn-babe secret: While good girls are taught to deprive themselves, porn
babes make self-maintenance a high priority.
Tantalizing tip: Whether it's a manicure, a blowout or just slathering
on a luxurious cream before bed, do something that makes you feel and look good
more than once a month. Feeling like you're worth the splurge will not only
boost your confidence, it will make you glow -- and that's hotter than any
bustier on the market.
10- Stop doing favors
Good-girl approach: You perform oral sex as a
"gift" for whatever special day or tell him that if he's good, you'll
let him try a new position.
Porn-babe secret: Sexual desire is not a male-specific attribute, nor is it
something that should be rationed. In fact, it's practically as essential to a
full life as food, water and shelter. Porn babes do things they know their
partner will enjoy, while asking for what they want in return.
Tantalizing tip: No one wants to feel like they are being manipulated or
treated like a charity case, so keep the bureaucracy out of the bedroom. Find
out what your partner likes, and as long as you are comfortable with it, give
it to him generously. The only "requirement" you should have is that
he reciprocate on the same level. His taking out the trash isn't a reason to
give him a bl*w job -- your turning him on is.
Decoding flirting
Flirting vs. True Attraction
When men and women spend a lot of time around one another, flirting becomes a means of communication and entertainment that can make everyday interactions more fun and exciting. Just like other interpersonal activities, though, each person flirts and accepts flirtation differently. While some people flirt constantly, others reserve this affectionate type of interaction for expressing genuine feelings that extend beyond friendship.
Either way, it can sometimes seem impossible to tell when flirtation is just for fun or when it’s an invitation to take things to the next level. If there are true feelings behind the flirting, it’s important to be able to recognize them in order to avoid any awkward or destructive situations. Sometimes a flicker of the eye or a brush on the arm can reveal volumes about the underlying relationship. Read on for tips on how to read her flirtatious activities and figure out if her interest extends beyond playfulness.
Level of attention
Flirtation that’s just flirtation will tend to be flippant and fun. Friends who don’t harbor a real attraction for one another will play, and then move on to the next thing. They have nothing invested because there are no feelings involved. If a gesture or a touch is prolonged, however, it could mean that she’s trying to get your attention to push things farther than the status quo. When flirtation is exaggerated like this, it could also mean she’s enjoying it so much that she doesn’t want to let you slip away, which is also an indication that there’s something else behind it. There is a fine defining line between these two levels of play, and people tend to differ on what they expect of flirtation, but you’ll likely notice if somebody gives you this extra bit of attention.Exclusivity
Some women are just flirty. If she’s scooting around giving everybody in the vicinity a wink and a nudge, there’s likely nothing special in the look she throws your way. In other words, if she uses casual flirting to throw a twist into an otherwise boring day, there’s probably nothing more behind it. If, on the other hand, she pays special attention to you, there’s a good chance you’ve been singled out for a reason. If it’s not in her nature to flirt with just anybody, she may be trying to communicate how she really feels about you. Used this way, flirtation is a way to feel you out before putting herself on the line.Intensity
The key to friendly flirtation is lightheartedness and subtlety. Two people who flirt often will likely have a rhythm to their interactions; it’s like a routine. This type of play has underlying and unsaid boundaries that maintain a friendly feel. If her flirting suddenly becomes more intense, however, it could indicate deeper feelings.More signs she wants to be more than just your friend…
Eye contact
Eye language is a very important indicator of the feelings between two individuals. Think of how you interact with your friends, male or female. Most of the time, eye contact is made during face-to-face conversation, but it is casual and frequently broken over the course of the exchange. If she makes prolonged and sustained eye contact, on the other hand, it could mean that something beyond friendship is afoot. Another indicator is if she mirrors your body language while you talk, extending the sense of closeness you both feel.These types of actions -- whether they’re performed consciously or not -- could mean that she’s trying to catch your eye in a romantic sense. She’s probably hoping you’ll notice her as something more than a fun friend.
Duration
Flirtation is something that’s fun and entertaining, but if it isn’t serious, it usually passes with time. Because there are no true feelings wrapped up in the friendly sort of flirting, a “love’ em and leave ’em” rule tends to govern these actions. If, on the other hand, the two of you have been flirting consistently for an extended period of time and it’s not waning, it’s possible that there are deeper feelings behind it.Think back on how your relationship has evolved. Is she still seeking you out after you’ve moved to new flirting grounds? If so, it’s likely that she’s trying to linger in this type of activity until she can get her real feelings of attraction across. Not only can this indicate existing feelings of interest, but prolonged flirtation with a single person can also lead to them, so tread carefully in both instances.
Intimacy
Flirting involves a broad range of activities, from conversation and mockery to gestures and touch. These actions can either be playful or extend to a more personal level. If flirtation began at -- or has progressed to -- a more intimate level than most friendships, you can take a hint that there’s probably more to it.For instance, conversation between friends can get flirty, but if she tells you personal things or asks you questions that reach a more emotional level, she’s probing beyond the scope of friendship, and it’s likely that she’s interested in pursuing a relationship. Likewise, if you go beyond an arm brush to holding hands or hugging, you have reached the next emotional level, which can indicate interest beyond friendship alone.
she loves me, she loves me not
It’s hard to
create solid definitions of what constitutes playful vs. serious
flirtation because it is so subjective, but if it is progressive or
ongoing, it’s likely an indication of true attraction. Whether flirting is just friendly or it hides other feelings, it’s important to recognize the true nature of it. If the romance is one-sided or inappropriate, it’s a good idea to shut down the flirtation before it becomes difficult to deal with.
Ways To Spark Attraction
Ways To Spark Attraction
When it comes to succeeding with women, the name of the game is ATTRACTION. If you don't know what sparks attraction in a woman and how to use that knowledge to make her FEEL it, you're going to have a lot of lonely nights. But once you master this invisible force… well, you'll have more women in your life than you can handle. Here are 10 tips to spark that magical feeling of attraction in the women you want.
Number 10
Stop trying to impress her
Most guys think that they need to IMPRESS an attractive woman. They try to be on their best behavior and not make any mistakes or say something that will upset or offend her. Of course, this leads to nervous, self-conscious, "stilted" behavior AND it creates a tense, uncomfortable atmosphere that literally KILLS any attraction she may feel for you. Instead, you need to practice remaining totally calm. RELAX and lay back. Stop thinking that you need to impress a woman and start expecting her to impress YOU.
Number 9
Keep the power
Ever been on a date and you could just sense that she had all the POWER? As if she had something that you desperately wanted and she KNEW IT? Most guys give away their power when they're with a woman. But do you think women are ATTRACTED to men who do this? No. The solution is to let her know that YOU are the one doing the "selecting," NOT HER. Show that you're picky about who you spend your time with and tease her about how she's screwing up her chances with you. Communicate that she's going to have to be on her best behavior to "qualify" for your time, and you'll be surprised just how far she'll go to get on your calendar.
Number 8
Master conflict
Most men avoid CONFLICT as if it were an evil force, and when they do experience it, they HATE it. The fear of conflict keeps a lot of guys unsatisfied and unable to progress in life. When you learn to effectively handle and manage conflict -- whether it's with your boss, with your date, or even within YOURSELF -- you'll be on one of the most direct routes to real maturity. And everyone knows that women are irresistibly attracted to emotionally MATURE men. So ask yourself where you avoid conflict in your life and what you can do to get more comfortable with it. Whatever it is, make a commitment to get it "handled,” and women will LOVE you for it.
How to get the bad-boy look and be comfortable with yourself... Next >>
Number 7
Pass her tests
If it were CRITICAL to find out what another person's TRUE character was like, and the stakes were high, how would you do it? The obvious answer is that you would create character TESTS for the other person and never TELL that person you're testing him.
This is EXACTLY what women do to men. Women look for things like dominance, drive and composure, and they test for these things by challenging men, changing plans at the last minute, playing hard to get, expecting special treatment, and so on.
How do you pass these tests and graduate to the next level? Realize when a woman is testing you and have the attitude of, “I can deal with any test a woman throws at me.” This strong, confident attitude will send her an undeniable signal that you're the solid kind of guy she wants to get to know better.
Number 6
The bad-boy look
Here are two undeniable facts about women:
FACT 1: Many women are attracted to the “Bad Boy.”
FACT 2: A woman knows if you’re a “Bad Boy” before you say a single word.
How? It’s by the way you LOOK -- and I’m not talking fashion here. It’s about the look on your face. Marlon Brando had it in the classic film A Streetcar Named Desire; James Dean had it in movies like Rebel Without a Cause and East of Eden. The combination of the furrowed brow, pursed lips and slightly squinted eyes triggers an automatic attraction-response deep inside a woman. You won’t believe how quickly this unique "look" will give you more of a bad-boy vibe and take your success with women to the next level.
Number 5
Put yourself on a pedestal
How would you act if you KNEW beyond the shadow of a doubt that a woman was TOTALLY into you but you weren’t THAT interested in her, and that you decided RELUCTANTLY to give her a chance to hang out with you? What if you were a bit arrogant, but still in the mood to have fun with it and tease her to see how much she really wanted you? Practice coming from this mental space and you'll find that it'll eliminate your nervousness -- INSTANTLY -- and it will give you the edge you need to project a confident, attractive vibe to ANY woman.
Number 4
Be TOO comfortable
When a man is intimidated by a woman, she ALWAYS knows. How? Because he'll behave in ways that subtly tell her he's not comfortable with himself, with her and with the situation. The solution is to go to the OPPOSITE EXTREME and create the feeling that you're TOO comfortable. Mimic something she's doing in a funny way -- for example, if she has a really rigid posture, sit up extra straight and say, "I really think you should work on your posture." People are only playful like this when they're feeling comfortable, so this behavior will send the message that you're not intimidated by her in the slightest.
You can also pick up something small like a napkin and swat her with it, especially after you've made fun of her and she's pretending the comment bothered her. Most men don’t have the guts to be this bold, so when you DO, she'll see you as a cut above other guys.
How to go in for that first kiss and make her want more.
Number 3
Kiss her
Let's face it: When it's time for the first kiss, most guys get a bit freaked out and start acting nervous because they don't know exactly what to do. If you're talking to a girl and you want to know if she's ready to be kissed, here's what you can do: Reach over and touch her hair while you're talking and make a comment about it. You might say, "Your hair looks so soft," and just touch the tips of it. If she smiles and likes this, reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets you keep touching her hair, you know she's ready for you to kiss her, so give her what she wants.
Number 2
Drive her CRAZY with anticipation
Here’s a killer move that will send ANY woman's attraction for you through the roof: I call it "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back." At each phase of contact -- like holding hands, kissing, and so on -- STOP and lean back for a minute or two BEFORE moving to the next "level." Let's say you're kissing a woman; instead of rushing in and trying to touch her body, stop kissing her and just look her in the eyes. THEN start kissing her again. The more you hold back and make her wait, the more she'll want you to CONTINUE. Creating and playing with "sexual tension" like this is a recipe for some SERIOUS chemistry.
Number 1
Bring out her animal responses
In the animal kingdom, different animals have signals that tell their mate of choice they're interested. When the male uses one of these signals, the female actually becomes PARALYZED and freezes in a sexually aroused position. Women respond in a similar way to several specific behaviors from men. So if you want to turn her on in a BIG way, smell her neck and shoulders… pull her hair gently by running your hand up the back of her neck and her hair, then make a fist and pull lightly… breath in her ear and whisper a compliment to her or bite her neck gently. Warning: Use these moves with caution -- you may create a WILD ANIMAL that will stop at nothing to get what she wants from you.
it’s about confidence
Ultimately, if you relax and are comfortable with yourself, she will be more attracted to you than if you put her on a pedestal and act nervous. Remember: You’re just as much of a catch as she is. Now have fun with it.
signs of
***13 signs of falling in love***13. When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang
Up...but you miss them already when it was just two minutes
ago112. You read their texts over and over again...11. You walk really slowly when you're with them...10. You feel shy whenever you're with them...9. When you think about them, your heart beats faster and faster...8 . You smile when you hear their voice...7. When you look at them, you can't see the other people around
You...All you see is him/her...6. You start listening to slow songs, while thinking of them...5. They become ALL you think about...4. You get high just from their scent...3. You realize that you're always smiling to yourself when you think
About them...2. You would do anything for them...1. While reading this, there was one person on your mind the whole Time.....
i have started following it......
We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie and then disappear. Or, there are those like Marilyn Monroe and Howard Hughes who achieve extraordinary success, at the cost of their own lives. These examples do not inspire me!My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many areas of life, and do it over and over through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and Jerry (the ice cream moguls), and a local hardware store owner who is famous for the money he's given to children's charities. As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman, politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable life. We all know examples of people who go from one success to another.
These are the people who inspire me! I've studied them, and I've noticed they have the following traits in common:
1. They work hard!
Yes, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others,
but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves.
Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.
2. They are incredibly curious and eager to learn.
They study, ask questions and read - constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them
did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn.
Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it's about being able to take information
and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways.
Successful people want to learn everything about everything!
3. They network.
They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people.
They listen to friends, neighbors, co- workers and bartenders. They don't have to be
"the life of the party," in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and
they value relationships.
Successful people have a Rolodex full of people who value their friendship and return their calls.
4. They work on themselves and never quit!
While the "over-night wonders" become arrogant and quickly disappear,
really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management
skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour,
they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time.
Successful people don't tolerate flaws; they fix them!
5. They are extraordinarily creative.
They go around asking, "Why not?" They see new combinations, new possibilities,
new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They
wake up in the middle of the night yelling, "I've got it!" They ask for advice, try
things out, and consult experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster,
cheaper solution.
Successful people create stuff!
6. They are self-reliant and take responsibility.
Incredibly successful people don't worry about blame, and they don't waste time complaining.
They make decisions and move on. Sometimes they are criticized for
taking this to extremes - Jimmy Carter carried his own briefcase and a President "shouldn't"
do that!
Extremely successful people take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success.
7. They are usually relaxed and keep their perspective.
Even in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people keep their balance,
they know the value of timing, humor, and patience. They rarely panic or make decisions on impulse.
Unusually successful people breath easily, ask the right questions, and make sound decisions, even in a crisis.
8. Extremely successful people live in the present moment.
They know that "Now" is the only time they can control. They have a "gift"
for looking people in the eye, listening to what is being said, enjoying a meal or fine wine,
music or playing with a child. They never seem rushed, and they get a lot done!
They take full advantage of each day.
Successful people don't waste time, they use it!
9. They "look over the horizon" to see the future.
They observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear the nuances
that others miss. A basketball player wearing Nikes is trivial,
the neighbor kid wearing them is interesting, your own teenager
demanding them is an investment opportunity!
Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future!
10. Repeatedly successful people respond instantly!
When an investment isn't working out, they sell. When they see an opportunity,
they make the call. If an important relationship is cooling down, they take time
to renew it. When technology or a new competitor or a change in the economic
situation requires an adjustment, they are the first and quickest to respond.
These traits work together in combination, giving repeatedly successful people
a huge advantage. Because they are insatiable learners, they can respond wisely
to change. Because their personal relationships are strong, they have good advisors,
and a reserve of goodwill when things go bad. And finally, none of these tra
its are genetic! They can be learned! They are free and they are skills you can use.
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52 Q - Questions answered by me...
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52 Questions......................
1. What time did you get up this morning? 3:00 noon 2. Diamonds or Pearls?
Diamonds 3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
I’m not sure, really believe me.. i dont remb. Quiet Strange 4. What are your favorite TV shows?
Survivor, Sopranos, Big Love, Desperate Housewives 5. What did you have for breakfast?
In breakfast .hmmmmm fruit, bread n butter and ........ milk .... naaaaaaaaa lolzzz 6. What is your middle name?
none
7. What is your favorite cuisine? Indian 8. What foods do you dislike?
Way too many too list 9. Your favorite Potato chip?
None really 10. What is your favorite CD? –
This changes all the time, I don’t think I have an all time favorite…mostly .. classic/old bollywod hits , and Remix.. (good one only) 11. What kind of car do you drive? Hundai Accent ..... 12. Favorite sandwich?
Avocado, shrimp, cream cheese & sprouts 13. What characteristics do you despise?
...................... 14. What are your favorite clothes?
My favorite is pair of faded blue jeans and white shirt. 15. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?
AS i m an artist i would definately love to go to some Artist place . And i this europe is filled up with these.......... France, Italy and pairs. 16. What color is your bathroom?
white 17. Favorite brand of clothing?
LEVI, PETER ENGLAND , Pepe etc 18. Where would you want to retire to?
NA 19. Favorite time of day?
Night ................. hmmmmmmm  20. Where were you born?
In a hospital ... LOLzzzzzzzz ... Gwalior , Madhya pradhes , India . 21. Favorite sport to watch?
I don’t like to watch sports.. but at time .. i watch Scoocer, Batmintion, and .. more feqtly WWE 22. Who do you least expect to send this back?
I’m not sending this to anyone 23. Person you expect to send it back first?
NA 24. Coke or Pepsi?
COKE ! 25. Are you a morning person or night owl?
I like the night better,as i worked in a International call center . but I now im working in morning . so i can say .. i like both Night and morning .
26. Any new and exciting news you'd like to share with everyone?
Not really that I can share here. but just .. want to inform u .. i m Still Single .. Once again one more girl left me.......... hehehe. Nobody take me serious........ 27. What did you want to be when you were little?
Artist ; Fashion designer; 28. What is your favorite childhood memory?
It’s hard to pick just one, they are so many of them. mostly from school. 29. What are the different jobs you have done? 30. Nicknames:
31. Piercing?
Yes 32. Eye Color?
Black 33. Ever been to Africa?
hehehe , No. Never been out of my countries boundries . 34. Ever been toilet papering?
No 35. Favorite day of the week?
Mostly Sundays because it’s usually a more relaxed day for me. But i think Friday is my luck day. 36. Favorite restaurant?
KAKE da Dabha. 37. Favorite flower?
Orchid 38. Favorite ice cream?
Any of the chocolate types. 39. Favorite fast food restaurant?
Yo China 40. How many times did you fail your driver's test?
None , i never been to any . I got the license without attemting to it. Lolzzzzzz 41. Before this one, from whom did you get your last e-mail?
The last email I just got is from Nidhi . 42. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
A major department store that has everything. 43. Bedtime?
Usually sometime after 1 am. 44. Who are you most curious about their responses to this questionnaire?
I like reading everyone’s answers to these types of questionnaires. 45. Last person you went to dinner with?
Friends - Atul, Anurag and parul 46. What are you listening to right now?
Ace of life
47. What is your favorite color?
Black, White, Red 48. How many tattoos do you have?
None as of now , but i love to have one . I will definately have one day. 49. Pets?
A Dog , i love .......... Horse 50. Favorite subject in school?
English,Economics, art , Social Science 51. Worst subject in school?
Math 52. How many people are you sending this Email to?
None but if you want to do it go ahead and copy it. |
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Leo Personality
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You have a gregarious personality easily standing out in a crowd, always the centre of attention at social gatherings. You are often loud and brash and people often take offence to that. If your big ego doesn't get the better of you, you can be a warm and considerate person. You are a lover with style, wooing your beloved in the most elegant manner. You wine and dine them, shower expensive gifts and roll out the red carpet all the way. You will find ideal life partners among fellow Leos, Aries and Sagittarians. A word of caution, however -- when you enter wedlock, married life will rarely be the same as it was during courtship and if you want smooth sailing, you will have to be less domineering and treat your spouse as your equal. Nevertheless, you will enjoy keeping a home that is good looking, where you can show off your taste and which is also reasonably equipped with material comforts.
Ideal Directions Your propitious directions based on the principles of Feng Shui:
HOW BAD IS YOUR ANGER: ACCORDING TO YOUR STAR SIGN LEO July 22 August 21 If anyone has total control over their emotions, it is you. But then, you can be described as stiff, cold and uncaring. You are known to lack spontaneity but you really don't care about opinions. You don't like to create scenes and will never accept invitations to a party where you suspect the presence of an unruly lot. But your very presence seems challenging to some and they take vicarious pleasure in your disquiet. When angry you can use very critical language. A dressingdown can humiliate your opponent, causing a strain between both of you forever
SO the DAY is .........................
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7 Golden Rules For Phone Calls
So now what? Telephone etiquette is a central part of the general impression you give a woman. Indeed, many disastrous conversations could be avoided if more people would simply think before dialing. So if you are rusty, telephone challenged, or even if you have been playing the field regularly, it can't hurt to fine-tune your game. While most supposed dating experts will give you dozens of telephone strategies to follow, I prefer to keep things simple. The seven tips below are all you need to develop a polished telephone personality and make a killer first impression.
1. Keep conversations short
Whether you are a busy corporate attorney, self-employed or even unemployed, you always want to give her the impression that you lead a full, active life. By keeping your initial telephone conversations brief, you will give her the impression that you are busy and in demand. And as an added bonus, if you are always the one ending the conversations, it will keep you in a position of control, leaving her wanting more and more of your time.
2. Leave on a high note
She'll always remember what you said last. Therefore, before ending a conversation, make an effort to leave on a positive note, such as with a well thought-out joke or a funny story. Even if your entire telephone conversation went poorly, if you leave her smiling before saying goodbye, she is more likely to want to speak to you again -- and hopefully see you in person -- which, of course, is your ultimate goal.
3. Have a purpose to your call
Don't just call to chitchat. I cannot stress this enough: preparation, preparation, preparation. Be armed and ready with a purpose to your call (the most likely purpose being to ask her out, of course); this will give her the impression that you are assertive and thoughtful enough to think of a plan beforehand. This plan will also serve as a backup weapon should there be an awkward silence in the conversation or if her voicemail picks up.
What tone to use, when to leave a message, what time of day to call, and more...
Women might have the reputation of being natural listeners, but the truth is that she probably won't stick around if you're all about gloom and negativity. It doesn't matter if your boss is disrespectful or your coworker is incompetent -- complaints are a real turnoff, especially in the early stages of a relationship. You can avoid looking needy by keeping your emotional baggage to yourself, at least at the beginning. Make a concerted effort to keep all conversations positive and the griping to a minimum.
5. Leave a message only on the second call
You should avoid leaving a message on the first call; it may make you seem too needy. Herein lies perhaps the most important, and least flexible, of all the rules: Do not think that you will elude her radar by calling from an unknown number or hanging up on her machine numerous times. If she doesn't answer your first call, feel free to hang up without leaving a message and try again later. Upon the second phone call, leave a message, and don't call again until she does. By not calling more than twice, you not only avoid the dreaded appearance of desperation, but you also throw the ball into her court and get the chance to gauge her interest in you (by seeing when or if she calls you back).
6. Place the call at an appropriate time
Phone calls during working hours are a complete no-no. Firstly, you'll be busted for daydreaming about her on the job -- if you take time off from work to call her, she'll know she's very much on your mind. Secondly, she might not be as receptive to your phone call with her coworkers or boss in her midst. If you'd like to set up a date for the weekend, call by Wednesday. Avoid Friday and Saturday night phone calls at all cost; even if you are at home with your dog watching a movie, she doesn't need to know that.
7. Leave coherent messages
Don't leave long, rambling messages on her voicemail. Picture this: Every message you leave on her voicemail could potentially be played back and analyzed several times over. Your tone and choice of wording could be used as points of discussion with her friends. Therefore, your best defense against a disastrous message is brevity. Identify yourself by name (especially in the early stages of getting to know her, don't just say, "It's me"), then get to the point (for example, ask her if she is available on Friday). Leave one phone number where you can be reached, but don't leave your contact number, address, e-mail, and so on -- this will just seem too desperate.
rules for dating success
Why introduce steadfast telephone rules into the world of dating? If you haven't already been convinced by what you've read, the answer is very simple: You achieve better results.Many of us -- men and women alike -- who are in pursuit of a romantic interest have a tendency to forget about rules and follow our hearts. Sadly, even good intentions can result in countless unanswered calls, and consequently, a severe blow to one's dignity. All this can be avoided if you are consistent about implementing the above tips. Within no time, your sophisticated telephone persona will surely stir her curiosity.
The dirty talks -------n-------- The kiss
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Your woman
So you want to talk dirty, but don’t have a clue where to start?
Gutter bedroom talk is an art form in itself -- but don’t worry, its not that hard to learn how to be good at it. Yes, there may be giggles, but a laugh is better than the alternative of silence and the subsequent hysterics you’ll trigger when she tells her girlfriends about it. Even in our modern era, talking about what we want when it comes to sex is still difficult. Fantasy requests can be misconstrued as saying “you are not enough for me” when, in reality, they are a huge part of our sexuality -- which, if we believe statistics, a whopping 80% of our sex lives takes place in our heads. So, talking dirty is part of fantasy sex play, and can be a headboard-busting turn-on for both partners. testing the dirty watersCommunication is the key to good sex. We should all know this by now, but we still don’t practice it half as much as we should, if at all. The first step to introducing something new into lovemaking is to test the waters in casual conversation. Ask questions like: “Have you ever talked dirty in bed before?” or “If I talked filth into your ear while we made love, what would you do?” This gets the idea into her head, and rest assured that she’ll ponder it after you mention it, and possibly discuss it with her girlfriends to see what they do and if they like it.
It is possible, however, that she will flatly refuse to entertain the idea, in which case, it’s best to drop it. If she is uncomfortable with the idea, she is not likely to change her mind in a hurry and any attempts will probably be a turn off. There are two aspects of successfully integrating dirty talk into your sex play. The first is the content; subject matter makes or breaks any dirty talk session. It’s supposed to turn her on, not make her cringe or burst out laughing. The second is the delivery: Your tone, volume, and the warm up are all important. dirty talk dosRead her an erotic storyThis can be incredibly erotic and is a fantastic way to spend an hour. There are plenty of good erotic writers around, but finding something she will like can be hard. A good bet is to find a women’s magazine that has an erotic fiction section in it or -- even better -- a specialized erotica magazine. She is unlikely to be offended if the magazine isn’t trashy or aimed at men. In reading to her, you can practice your dirty voice and it’s also a fun way to spend time together, whether it leads to sex or not.
Want to avoid getting slapped? Here’s a tip: Don’t mention her twin sister… SwearDirty words are part of our culture, and we use them for effect and expression. This is the very reason why swearing is a great part of talking dirty in bed. The bare-bones filth of the words spurs on the rawness of the act you are performing. It can also bring out another side of us. If your girl is sweet and polite by nature, expressing her dirty side in bed can be a real buzz for both of you.
Speak in a different languageAll in all, English is not the most romantic language on earth. It is by no means the worst sounding, but something like French, Italian or Portuguese sounds so much better. It sounds different and the words, spoken with such elegance, are a pleasure to hear. Having words spoken to you in a foreign tongue during sex can be a beautiful thing, regardless of what is said. Keep in mind, however, that telling her you can’t wait to buy a new dishwasher in Spanish is not going help you in anyway -- unless, of course, you have a thing for dishwashers. So, keep the topic sexy so that you stay in the mood as well.
dirty talk don’tsDon't mention familyReferences to her family or yours are strictly out of bounds and, really, do you want to be discussing the in-laws while you make love? Probably not. Don’t mention anything about her super-sexy younger sister either or she'll pull the plug on the whole lovemaking shebang.
Don't talk about other womenDon’t bring up the topic of other women unless she specifically requests it, otherwise it could make her feel very insecure. And insecurity is not a known aphrodisiac. It is quite possible that your partner may want to hear you talking filth about another woman. It may turn her on to know that other women want you and that you want them. It comes back to the raw factor, which is useful in many ways, but understandably, can be a bit much for some people. To be on the safe side, just steer clear of the topic unless asked otherwise.
Don't use clinical or childish termsClinical terms will sweep the sexiness out of any passionate moment. Calling your manhood an erect penis kills the moment with images of high school sex ed. At this point in time, it is of no use to either of you, unless you’re role playing, of course. This applies to all parts of the anatomy, with the possible exception of the term "breasts.” Immature terms can include things like “hooters” or ”jugs;” they’re just not the sexiest word options.
delivering the goods1- Choose a voiceWhat is sexy to you? Low and deep, high and squeaky or a breathy whisper? Your normal talking voice or a new persona? Play around with a few and choose one you like. The benefit of having a special dirty talk voice is that when you are on the phone with her in the future and you use your sexy voice, her mind will automatically associate that voice with (hopefully) raunchy, exciting sex.
Tips on building up your bank of filthy lines and how to deal with uncontrollable laughter… 2- Warm upFirst thing’s first: Make sure you are both in the mood. It is easiest to start talking dirty when you are actually having sex. You will both need to be quite turned on for it to work, which means no skipping foreplay. Whisper a couple of things in her ear and see what she does, just to test the waters.
3- Start talkingA good way to start the dirty talk is by simply relaying what you are doing at the time and how good it feels -- but don’t go on about it. Having someone commentating on the action the entire time can be a turn off, so take it easy. Just say a few things, like: “Your [insert body part] feels so good” or “I love how my [insert body part] feels when you do that.” Keep in mind that women can feel quite self-conscious when a man comments on their body during sex. The benefit of this dialogue is that not only will she get to hear you dirty talk, but she’ll also get to learn more about what you like during sex. This communication has longer-lasting benefits than just making sex more exciting at the time, and it will encourage her to speak up too.
4- Develop your repertoireTry to keep the subject matter and the lines you use varied; nobody likes a broken record. Once you are more confident that she likes it and wants to play, try to incorporate some speech-centered role-playing into your lovemaking. Get her to join; you may just find her swearing back at you.
5- Get feedbackIt can be hard to discuss how well you’re doing whilst in the act, so save the analysis for later. If she doesn’t like it but you clearly do, she won’t want to embarrass you. To avoid this problem with a less communicative partner, ask her later. Discuss it when you’re watching TV or making dinner. Any time you are fully clothed there is a far less risk of damaging egos. You can talk about which parts you both liked, and if she or you stopped liking it at anytime and why. Keep the discussion light-hearted and fun.
6- Prepare to deal with laughterWe laugh at all sorts of things, especially when we’re nervous or afraid. The problem with talking dirty is that it can often be hilarious and laughing is involuntary, or your nerves or hers may manifest themselves into laughter. To avoid this, discuss your fears with your partner, or at least mention that you are afraid that she will laugh at you. This lets her know not to laugh, but to encourage you and tell you what she would like.
filthy funTalking dirty can be a lot of fun and can give a boost to your sex life. Being an effective dirty talker takes practice and perseverance. Blurting out rude things may come naturally to you, but being a successful filth merchant probably doesn’t. Just remember: Take it easy and work your way into it.
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In this excerpt from She Comes First, author Ian Kerner stresses the importance of the first few touches when it comes to pleasing your lady, and how a good "first impression" will dictate how the rest of the oral sex session goes.
The approach Never underestimate the power of first impressions, especially the impression of your lips against her vulva. This first kiss atop a woman's vulva is often the most exquisite of all possible kisses and can literally take her breath away. Approach the first kiss as an event, as though tasting the first sip of an expensive bottle of wine that you've been saving for that special occasion. Don't just pop off the cork and start swigging: Let it breathe, sniff and savor the bouquet, admire the body, note the complexion and tone, and then, finally, take that much-anticipated first sip. Allow yourself to appreciate the full experience. Caution: Never, under any circumstances, blow into a woman's vagina as though trying to fill it with air. Doing so is seriously dangerous. Blowing into a woman's vagina may cause an embolism and lead to death. Breathe on her; blow lightly on her; never blow into her. The moment before Before you move in for the first kiss, take a moment to acknowledge the presence of the vulva: your partner in pleasure. Prepare yourself mentally for the experience ahead. Remind yourself that you are there to lead her steadfastly through the process of sexual response to orgasm. And now it's time for the kiss... This is a great time to remind her of the Three Assurances:
Like a guest arriving at a much-anticipated dinner party, let your hostess know how excited you are to be there, how beautiful she looks, and how much you're looking forward to the meal ahead. Put her at ease. Tease her, taunt her, tantalize her -- make her think she's not ever going to get it, ever, and then, just when she's on the brink of utter madness, give it to her. The kiss Make your first lick a slow and tender "ice cream" lick from bottom to top. Make it long and lasting. Take it all in. No matter what your approach, take it long and slow, from bottom to top, and savor every step of the journey. Now that you've lavished her with the first kiss (that long full lick), let your tongue rest flat against the length of her vaginal entrance. Encompass her vulva with your tongue. Take a moment to let the experience of the first kiss resonate. Make sure it's love at first lick. |
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What She................. Means ?
What Women Say & What They Really Mean
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Your woman just got home from shopping and is modeling her new dress for you. She circles the room and looks at you expectantly, waiting for your opinion. Naturally, you are confused. Is she asking for your honest opinion or is she fishing for a compliment?
Sometimes, determining what your woman is asking you can be a challenge, especially in the early stages of a relationship. This communication barrier is no one’s fault. Rather, it can be attributed to the fact that men and women speak very different languages; while men are used to being more direct with one another, women tend to be more subtle, often using hints and insinuations. So don’t be surprised when you and your woman have such misunderstandings -- instead, pay attention and read on. As a continuation of my previous article on the subject, I have translated a few common phrases that she might utter in the early stages of your relationship. These should help bridge the gap between what she says and what she means, and get the two of you speaking the same language. decoding her phrasesShe says: “I’m not angry.”What she means: I’m angry.
Why she does this: If she’s pursing her lips and not speaking to you, but claims she’s not angry, she’s probably bluffing. She could simply be bottling up her anger or she may think that her man should just know why she’s upset, without her having to tell him. What you should do: Try to figure out why she’s upset and talk about it. The issue is not going to go away. In fact, if you don’t deal with it, she’ll just have bottled-up anger toward you and it’ll come back to bite you later. She says: “I think of you as a brother.”What she means: I’m not attracted to you.
Why she does this: She probably wants to preempt your hitting on her with this sneaky little line. It serves the purpose of letting you know she’s not into you, and of course, it’s kinder than telling you the truth. What you should do: In this case, it’s what you shouldn’t do: Don’t make a move on her. Decoding more of her confusing comments for you… She says: “I like your friends, but…”What she means: I don’t like your friends.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to come off as controlling or insulting to you or your friends, so she’s not going to tell you outright how much she dislikes them. She probably thinks they’re a bad influence on you and wants you to hang out with them less. What you should do: It depends on what she says she doesn’t like about them. If she has a valid reason to dislike them, then you might take her concerns into consideration. Otherwise, simply tell her that your friends are important to you and that you'd like her to make more of an effort to get along with them. She says: “You don't communicate enough.”What she means: How do you feel about me and our relationship?
Why she does this: She wants to know how you are feeling and where the relationship is going, but doesn’t want to come off as needy. She is hoping you’ll volunteer your thoughts and feelings on your relationship. What you should do: Put her mind at ease and tell her what you think about the relationship. If you don’t do it now, she’ll just find another way to ask you. She says: “Why don’t you try to kiss me like this?”What she means: I don’t like the way you do it.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. But this is not all bad; she likes you enough to want to work at it and make it better. What you should do: Try it her way and see how it goes. She says: “I really like that guy's hair.”What she means: I don't like yours.
Why she does this: She figures that it’s a lot nicer to hint at this than to tell you outright. What you should do: Get a second opinion on your hair. She may be right that it needs a change. But if your second opinion tells you otherwise, feel free to stick to your guns and your hairstyle. In that case, just pretend that you didn’t get her hint. She wants to know how she looks in her new dress? Here’s exactly what you’re going to say… She says: “Your love handles are so cute.”What she means: Get rid of them, please.
Why she does this: Most women know what it’s like to struggle with body issues, so she would never insult you by telling you that you need to head to the gym. This way, she’s letting you know that you do indeed have love handles, but in a kind and gentle way. (Note: There may be a small percentage of women who are sincere when they compliment your love handles. How do you tell the difference? It’s all in her tone of voice.) What you should do: This one’s up to you. I wouldn’t go to the gym simply to please someone else (love handles generally are not deal breakers anyway). But feel free to go if it’ll please you. She says: “How do I look in this [insert clothing item]?”What she means: I need more reassurance from you.
Why she does this: She is somewhat insecure and needs more reassurance than you’ve been giving her. She really wants to hear a “you look beautiful/hot/wonderful” from you. What you should do: Tell her what she wants to hear, unless she is modeling a particularly ill-fitting item of clothing (you want to bend the truth here, not completely lie). She says: “Why do you wash the dishes/clean the floor/fold clothes like that?”What she means: You are doing it wrong.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to discourage you by telling you that you’re doing household chores wrong or not in the way that she likes. She wants you to keep helping out with chores, but do it her way. What you should do: Do it her way; it’ll be less of a hassle in the long run. She says: “I want to do something together.”What she means: We need more one-on-one time together.
Why she does this: She is saying it in this roundabout way to avoid coming off as needy. What you should do: It depends how much time you are spending together. If you don’t spend much time together, you can increase it. If you already spend most of your time together, you can ignore the hint. Remember: What you do early on in the relationship will set the tone for the rest of it, so don’t feel that you have to give in to everything she demands. mixed messages
Don’t be surprised when your woman’s words have a double meaning. Unlike men, a woman will often hint or change her tone of voice to get her message across. But if you learn to read subtleties like her intonation, gestures and expressions, you’re less likely to be caught off guard. So after reading the above list, the next time you so brazenly ignore her hints and suggestions, I expect that it will be fully intentional on your part. |
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